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Please click here =20 =20 Issue 211 - 11 th September, 2006 Go to our website Here =20 =20 * Hello Warwick * Grandads * Laughter * Single Dads=20 * All you need is Love * Thought of the Week * Special Feature * News & Info * Dad's Prayer * Help Us Hello Warwick =20 The Fatherhood Foundation is sponsoring the 'Turning Hearts Speaking Tour 2006' with Brian Molitor from the Malachi Global Foundation. =20 =20 Who is Brian Molitor?=20 Let me tell you. =20 Brian Molitor is CEO of Molitor International, a leadership training and management consultancy in the USA. Brian is named among the 'Who's Who Worldwide' for outstanding business leadership. =20 His most recent book, 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' is about rites of passage, manhood and a father's blessing. Brian is also the founder of the Malachi Global Foundation. He has been married for 23 years and has four children. =20 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' is available at www.koorong.com.au Here is Brian's own words about the subject. =20 When a young male reaches his teen years, he instinctively looks for ways to affirm his manhood. In societies where rites of passage are part of the norm, each young male participates in a formal ceremony during which his manhood is publicly and undeniably affirmed. From that day forward, he is treated differently by those around him and receives more freedom, rights and privileges. In response the young man begins to think and act more an as adult than as a child. For the rest of his life he pursues maturity rather than manhood. =20 =20 In contrast, a young male living in a society with no formal rites of passage must find his own path to adulthood. Without formal affirmation of his transformation, he vainly tries to find manhood on his own through a variety of means. Sadly, his pursuit of manhood rather than maturity will lead him down many side roads that are fruitless at best, destructive at worst. =20 While the two concepts, manhood and maturity seem very similar, they are as different as night and day. Manhood is bestowed upon a young male by the trusted elders (fathers, grandfathers, uncles, pastors, coaches, teachers) of his society during a rite of passage. Maturity is gained as a man grows in knowledge, wisdom and character. Manhood is a gift that we adults give to our sons. Maturity is the gift that they give back to us. =20 On the long flight from Africa, it became clear to me that without a rite of passage and some very deliberate mentoring along the way, each of us remains trapped within a false image of who we are. As I looked more deeply into the matter of 'growing up', I made a list of negative childish actions. Selfishness was definitely high on the list, followed by complaining, quitting when faced with a difficult situation, throwing temper tantrums, spewing threats of self-destruction, struggling with short attention spans, and demanding one's own way without regard for the needs of others. =20 It is clear that the lack of an intentional transition into adulthood creates a variety of problems for men of all ages. In an attempt to compensate for the lack of a transitional event, some teenage males unknowingly create their own rites of passage by resorting to violence, alcohol other drugs and sexual conquest. In the corporate world some men in leadership positions use the authority of their job titles to prove they have arrives, threatening others into submission. Like bullies who stalk junior-high schoolyards, these 'grown' men live to verbally wrestle and pin their weaker opponents during staff meetings. =20 Often men in their late thirties, forties, and fifties stumble into what is commonly called a midlife crisis. During this time men become consumed with a desire to search for meaning and identity in their lives. This sounds strangely similar to the vision quest that White Fox undertook at age fourteen. =20 In today's society men seem to have a difficult time settling into life. Many struggle with a 'Peter Pan syndrome'. They do not want to grow up, and yet they realise they were created for a higher purpose than endless play in never-never land. How sad it is to see men at the end of their lives, estranged from their families, still unsure about spiritual realities, still questioning the reason for their own existence, and still wondering if they have succeeded in growing into manhood. Just as sad to see are the countless families whose sons fall into the predictable traps along the road of life because they don't know what a man is, much less how to become one. =20 =20 =20 Lovework =20 What Brian says about boy's transitions to manhood and rites of passage also applies to girl's transitions to womanhood. Brian's wife Kathy has just completed a book to help girls in their transition to womanhood. I encourage you to do one or both of two things. Buy a copy of boy's Passage Man's Journey for yourself or consider coming to a Boys Passage Man's Journey Seminar in a city near you. Further details can be found in News & Info. This is a wonderful opportunity to hear a world leader in the fatherhood movement on his first visit to Australia. 'carpe deim' is Latin for 'seize the day'. I can't think of a better way to say it. =20 Yours for our children Warwick marsh =20 PS The Terri Irwin Interview on Wednesday night was amazing. What a woman! What a family! What a man! =20 Steve Irwin was obviously an extremely committed father. What one of his best friends said about him was true, "He was a great advocate for wildlife but an even greater father." What an incredible legacy he gave not only to his family but the whole world in this regard.=20 ___________________________________________________________ Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison for 30 years. He is=20 the father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 25 years to 13 years. Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself. back to top=20 =20 Grandads =20 =20 Opportunities for meaningful communication between fathers and sons must be created, and it's work to achieve it. =20 James Dobson back to top=20 =20 Laughter =20 =20 ________________________________________________________________________ __________ =20 Video link tor Dads who think its a piece of cake looking after Kids....Great fun http://www.fathers.com/humor/video1.html back to top=20 =20 Single Dads=20 =20 Robbing One Struggling Child...=20 to spoil her brother - the C$A way by James Adams=20 =20 Children Live in Households =20 To show how evil C$A rules are.. look at this example. Here is a really typical situation. Two parents divorce, she gets the kids. Both re-partner and they end up each with two kids... the mother has the original kids, and the dad has one kid that came with his new wife, and they have had one kid together. =20 =20 Dad's Kids=20 =20 One wage Two kids One dependant wife (with a young baby) pays child support=20 =3D poor house =20 Mother's House =20 Two wages Two kids No dependant adults gets child support=20 =3D rich house =20 =20 Yes, it's true... the money flows from the poor kids to their rich half-siblings. =20 =20 If everybody who works earns the average wage, Dad's household has $40,000 before tax, while the mother has $110,000. (before tax). The CSA (under the new formula) is $9000, after tax/tax free.=20 =20 This is the sort of evil that occurs when you forget the fundamental truth that all citizens should be treated fairly before the law and that kids live in households. =20 =20 The rules are based on ignoring new spouses... so Dad's dependant spouse and her kid is ignored, and Mum's new breadwinner is ignored. =20 Interesting the double standards... If you are on the dole, and you hook-up with somebody (marry, de-facto) this affects your dole payment. Adults live in households, apparently... but if you are a C$A receiving mother and you get married, your new husband's income is irrelevant...=20 =20 Who made up these rules? They aren't fair... they hurt children and they hurt dads... I wonder who gets the cash? =20 James Adams Fathers for Equality 0417 258 364 back to top=20 =20 All you need is Love 50 YEARS LATER, IT'S 'I DO' ALL OVER AGAIN Chicago Sun-Times September 11, 2006 BY STEVE PATTERSON Staff Reporter =20 The advice is simple. =20 =20 Among the hundreds of couples gathered Sunday at Holy Name Cathedral to celebrate 50 years of marriage, Don Ostrowski has a quick answer for those looking for the secret to reaching the golden wedding anniversary milestone he and his wife, Sara, achieved this month. =20 =20 "Just agree with everything she says," the New Lenox man said, earning a laugh from his wife. "If she's happy, you're happy." =20 The annual tradition of renewing vows at the Catholic church packed the pews, as Frank Hannigan, director of family ministries for the Archdiocese of Chicago, noted that each couple represents 100 years of marriage experience. =20 "Fifty for the husbands," he noted, "and what probably feels like a whole lot more than that to the wives." =20 'What a beautiful sight this is' =20 Couples came with corsages on their wrists and boutonnieres on their lapels, with hair grayer and faces more weathered than when they first said, "I do." =20 They moved down the steps a bit slower than when they ran through showers of rice in 1956, but their dedication served as an inspiration. =20 "What a beautiful sight this is," retired Bishop Raymond Goedert said, looking over the crowd. "In the name of the church, I thank you." =20 Jesse Canchola wore a tuxedo and his wife, Theresa, a gown to celebrate 50 years since they married in Mexico. The Chicago couple met at his 18th birthday feast and had five children together. =20 "You've got bad times and good times," he said of their endurance, noting they stood by each other through it all. =20 'We've been able to endure' =20 As Goedert recited verses, each couple renewed their vows, joining hands, rubbing each other's backs, enjoying a kiss and taking off their glasses to wipe away tears. =20 Will and Laurie White said it was their faith that brought them this far, decades after they met as seventh-graders. =20 It was his love of jazz that first got her attention when they were growing up in Gary, and 50 years and two children later, they say it is communication that has been the key to their success -- even as they finish each other's sentences. =20 "We've been able to endure," Will White said. "I think that sort of deserves a little pat on the back." =20 =20 =20 =20 More than 600 couples renewed their vows Sunday at Holy Name Cathedral, 50 years after they married. According to those there, these are the keys to reaching a golden wedding anniversary: =20 * Communicate.=20 * Pray.=20 * Be determined to make it succeed. * Share.=20 * Love each other.=20 * Laugh.=20 * Forgive.=20 * Remember "Till death do us part." back to top=20 =20 Thought of the Week =20 =20 Take the time to have fun. Life truly is short. =20 Terri Irwin back to top=20 =20 Special Feature Terri Irwin Says Son Cries for his Dad Interview with Barbara Walter Thursday Sep 28 09:35 AEST =20 "I want my Daddy to come. I want my Daddy to come now." They were the heartbreaking words Steve Irwin's two-year-old son, Bob, cried soon after hearing his father had died. "He cried for his Daddy," Irwin's wife, Terri, told American journalist Barbara Walters in an interview to be aired on US TV on Thursday night. While his big sister, Bindi, 8, had come to terms with their father's death, Bob had not given up hope his dad might come home. Terri said she recently discovered Bob tinkering with his father's motorbike with a screwdriver. When Terri asked what he was doing, Bob replied: "I'm fixing the motorbike so Daddy can drive it from heaven." The Walters interview, to be broadcast on America's ABC TV network, is expected to be watched by more than 10 million viewers. ABC will air it following two of the network's highest rated programs, Dancing with the Stars and Lost. Americans will hear how Terri gently broke the news to Bob, 2, and daughter Bindi, 8, that their father had died in a stingray attack on the Great Barrier Reef. "I told Bindi 'In life you steel yourself for things that go wrong," Terri, fighting back tears, said. "And I said 'When something goes wrong you have to have faith and you have to believe it can be a new chapter and that we can go on'. "And I said 'We are still a family. Daddy still loves you and we have to stay together and get each other through this'." Terri and her children were holidaying in a remote area of Tasmania on September 4 when her brother-in-law called with the life-changing news her husband had died. "Bindi was OK until Robert woke up," Terri told Walters. "Robert asked me twice what happened and I explained it to him. It took him longer to get his mind around it. "He cried for his Daddy: 'I want my Daddy to come. I want my Daddy to come now'. "I'm OK until my kids cry. "But, you know, I'm very resolute in making sure these kids remember their father and are proud of their father and that they celebrate their father however they choose." The world watched as Bindi, without shedding a tear, spoke at her father's memorial at Australia Zoo last week. Walters, admiring how calmly the eight-year-old spoke, asked Terri if Bindi fully understood her father had died. "Absolutely, she understands," Terri responded. "She always understood because living at a zoo, animals die. "She has seen death. She knows what death is. "She said I want to be at the memorial and say something about my Daddy." Terri, however, said she was unable to speak at the memorial. "I couldn't," Terri said. "It's hard now. =20 =20 =20 "I'm really trying, but I've lost my prince. "I've lost my prince." Terri added she still cries, although she tries not to in front of her children. "They've seen me cry, but there are times when I weep," Terri said. "I usually weep alone." =A9AAP 2006 =20 =20 =20 back to top=20 =20 News & Info =20 =20 =20 =20 Dear Friends =20 We write to tell you about the Turning Hearts 2006 Speaking Tour with Brian Molitor. =20 =20 Brian is the author of the groundbreaking book, 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' (c) 2004, Emerald Books, USA. This book is available from Koorong Books www.koorong.com.au and has had a wonderful impact around the world. Brian is also the founder of Malachi Global Foundation www.malachiglobal.org based in USA. He is also a management consultant and an executive coach who has taught leadership and management principles all over the world. Brian has been married to Kathy for 23 years and has four children. =20 Brian Molitor will be conducting 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' Seminars', which focus on lifelong mentoring, transitions to manhood, father's blessing, words of affirmation and rites of passage. =20 He will be conducting these seminars in Wollongong, Perth, Kalgoorlie, Sunshine Coast QLD, Hobart, Melbourne and Berwick from 18th October to 29th October. =20 The evening seminars will run for 2 hours at a cost of $25. Full day seminars will be $30. =20 We encourage you to attend one of these 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' seminars which are geared for fathers and young men. =20 Brian Molitor is a world class speaker with a message of renewal for men and families for the 21st century. We encourage you to take advantage of his presence in Australia and book in early at a location near you to avoid disappointment. =20 Yours for Australian families Warwick Marsh Fatherhood Foundation PO Box 440 Wollongong NSW 2520 02 4272 6677 info@fathersonline.org=20 www.fathersonline.org =20 =20 Boy's Passage Man's Journey Seminars will be held in the following locations:=20 =20 Wednesday 18th October, 7 - 9 pm Wollongong Cedars Christian College Library Building Waples Rd Unanderra NSW 2526 Bookings are essential Ph: 02 4272 6677 AH: 0418 225 212 =20 Saturday 21st October, 9 am - 3 pm Thornlie Church of Christ 319 Spencer Rd Thornleigh WA Bookings are essential 08 9459 8522 AH: 0413 081 228 =20 Monday 23rd October, 7-9 pm Kalgoorlie Church of Christ=20 169 Egan St Kalgoorlie WA Bookings are essential 08 9021 2296 AH: 0427 356 619 =20 Wednesday 25th October, 7-9 pm Goodlife Community Church 100 Buderim Pines Dr Buderim QLD Bookings are essential 07 5478 1766 AH: 0412 121 745 or 0410 585 277 Sponsored by:=20 Goodlife Community Church Heart to Heart Ministries=20 The Passage Program =20 Thursday 26th October, 7 - 9 pm Grace Christian Church 45 Melville St Hobart TAS Bookings are essential 03 6231 2648 AH: 0418 123 338 =20 Saturday 28th October, 9.30 am - 3.30 pm Lighthouse Christian College (Library Building) 927 Springvale Rd Springvale VIC Bookings are essential 03 8796 7373 AH: 0402 067 030 =20 Sunday 29th October, 6 - 8 pm The Winepress Church 40 Intrepid St Berwick VIC 03 9796 1006 =20 =20 =20 =20 =20 =20 =20 29 October - 01 November 2006=20 The Men's Advisory Network (MAN)=20 Conference "From Babies to Blokes: The Making of Men"=20 The Men's Advisory Network (MAN) is conducting a conference of national significance on the theme "From Babies to Blokes: The Making of Men" to be held at the Esplanade Hotel, Fremantle from 29 October to 1 November 2006.=20 The conference will have six streams:=20 * Conditioning of infant boys=20 * Development of boys=20 * Transition from boyhood to manhood=20 * Men and work=20 * Men and relationships=20 * Men and ageing=20 Speakers so far confirmed include:=20 * Bettina Arndt=20 * Professor Konrad Jamrozik=20 * Ian Lillico=20 * Greg Mitchell=20 * Dr Michael Nagel=20 * Kieren Perkins=20 * Dr Shaun Ridley=20 * Dr Arne Rubinstein=20 * Dr Norman Swan.=20 Register at: www.promaco.com.au/conference/2006/man/index.htm =20 Any assistance that you may be able to give in assisting to promote the conference would be greatly appreciated.=20 Gary Bryant=20 Executive Officer=20 Email: admin@man.org.au admin@man.org.au =20 Website: www.man.org.au www.man.org.au =20 __________________________________________________ =20 =20 =20 __________________________________________________________ =20 US Marriage Leaders Visit Australia =20 Marriage Leaders and Ministers are invited to attend Morning Tea and an opportunity to hear from two exciting couples visiting Sydney from North America: =20 Leo and Molly Godzich founded the National Association of Marriage Enhancement (NAME) and are actively involve in teaching couples how to have a better marriage. They will share their insights on how the understanding of a foundation of covenant can make a huge difference in the lives of our churches. Leo and Molly teach a weekly marriage class to hundreds of couples with outstanding results. Together they have created and conduct 'Together Forever' marriage events.=20 =20 =20 Bob and Audrey Meisner will share from their dynamic testimony of marriage healing after seeking God and facing up to the impact of adultery. They have recently written two books and are co-hosts of the television program "'t's A New Day' seen daily across Canada and the UK. Individually and as a couple, they have been working on Christian television since 1984. Having pioneered in broadcasting and church planting, Bob and Audrey are now popular marriage conference speakers. =20 =20 THE DETAILS: FRIDAY 3rd November 2006 * 10.00 am Morning Tea - Conclude by 12.30 pm=20 * C2 Connection Centre=20 * Corner of Silverwater Road and Egerton Street SILVERWATER 2128=20 * No charge/No offering=20 * Car Parking available -onsite & on the street=20 =20 =20 FOR FURTHER INFORMATION: =20 and to RSVP (By Wed 1st Nov) please contact: Neil and Jane Rookes - National Marriage Coalition=20 28/18 Day Street North SILVERWATER NSW 2128 P: 02 96486464 M: 0434984295 =20 E: info@marriage.org.au=20 Two similar events will be held in Brisbane and Toowoomba, Tuesday 7th November. Please contact above for further information. =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * =20 Letters =20 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =20 Having recently welcomed my own son into manhood with the help of the men of my church and some of the men who have been a part of his life to date, I was excited to see the topic of Brian Molitor's presentation - "Boy's Passage - Man's Journey". In welcoming my own son into manhood I was pretty much guessing what would be appropriate and significant. The guess was pretty good and we had a great night, but I would have valued some more input from someone like Brian. If you have boys I thoroughly recommend this presentation as a mind-flint as to how you can help them become the men that they are intended to be. =20 Remember, it takes a village to raise a child. It takes a village to make a man! =20 Brian Pember =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *=20 =20 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =20 Greetings from your counterpart in the US!!!=20 =20 WOW!!! I barely know where to begin other than to say 'hello' and I am absolutely excited about my friend Brian coming to your corner of the world to bring his passion, wisdom, and experience to the fathers of Australia!! I know that everyone, including Brian, will be blessed by what will happen there. =20 I had a very good time looking at your web site and the things that you are doing and accomplishing there? GREAT JOB WARWICK!!!! That is a tremendous thing you are doing lending yourself to fathers and families! You are literally changing the destiny of Australia! Every day that I come to work I feel the weight of the responsibility that we have here at the National Center for Fathering and I think about the million plus dads a year that are being affected by our work?and the realization that if we are to reach a tipping point in the US that we need to get that number up to 10 million!!!! =20 =20 The high octane fuel that I run on comes from my father leaving at 5 - and then 25 years later my father and I reconnecting, reconciling, and now having a tremendous relationship! For all the work I do I see clearly that I want fathers and their fathers and fathers and their children to have that same shot at reconciliation and wholeness that we now have. So, I burn at a very high rate to create a vortex to bring dads together to help them to become more effective fathers. =20 We too believe that every child needs a dad that they can count on. Children thrive when they have an involved father - someone who loves them, knows them, guides them, and helps them to achieve their destiny. At NCF we inspire, engage, and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers, and father figures their children need. I've included an attachment that will give you a 50,000 foot overview of who we are - if you want a closer view of any of that just let me know. =20 I look forward to hearing from you. You could not have chosen a better man to engage your dads and men. Let me know how I can serve you from this end. =20 In Him' Ken Howard Seminar Director National Center for Fathering 10200 W. 75th St. Suite 267 Shawnee Mission, KS 66202 913-378-1042 direct line 816-918-1303 cell khoward@fathers.com=20 www.fathers.com =20 =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * =20 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =20 Steve Irwin was not just a crocodile hunter, he was also a dedicated father and family man who loved and cherished his children, just as most all fathers do. Sadly a terrible accident took Steve away from his beloved children. Equally sadly near a million Australian children are taken away from their fathers by one of the most outdated inhuman family law systems in the world which whether you believe it or not. I have always believed and stated, the system has created a second stolen generation of children in this country, from their dads. We must never, never ever give up the fight to bring about equality and squash this monster that keeps stealing our children and making billions of dollars out of their devastated fathers. =20 The best to all=20 Barry Williams LFAA president@lonefathers.com.au=20 =20 =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * =20 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =20 Absolutely BRILLIANT Newsletter this time (24th Sept 06). All are good but this was extra, extra good. Well done! =20 John Marks General Manager Rhema FM Newcastle =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *=20 =20 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =20 Thankyou so much for the opportunity to present at the Good to Great Course last Thursday. I love speaking to Dads. You guys are doing an awesome job and I would love to be a part of the future. Let me know how I can help. =20 Keep changing your world =20 Rhett Morris CEO Teen Challenge NSW =20 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * back to top=20 =20 Dad's Prayer =20 Dear God =20 Do you mean to tell me that manhood=20 is granted to a son by his father and the elders in the community in a public celebration? Is that why you said,=20 "This is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased"=20 from that cloud all those years ago? =20 Maybe you were trying to tell us=20 to do the same for our children. You know we are a bit slow sometimes, but we do get things after a while. Thanks for the tip. back to top=20 =20 Help Us Click here for more information about us =20 Help Us! The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Prevention Charity.=20 Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been proven to be a source of harm.=20 The Fatherhood Foundation helps children by promoting excellence in fathering. 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Issue 211 - 11 th September, 2006 Go to our website Here


Hello Warwick

 

The Fatherhood Foundation is sponsoring the 'Turning Hearts Speaking Tour 2006' with Brian Molitor from the Malachi Global Foundation.

 

Who is Brian Molitor?

Let me tell you.

 

Brian Molitor is CEO of Molitor International, a leadership training and management consultancy in the USA. Brian is named among the 'Who's Who Worldwide' for outstanding business leadership.

 

His most recent book, 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' is about rites of passage, manhood and a father's blessing. Brian is also the founder of the Malachi Global Foundation. He has been married for 23 years and has four children.

 

'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' is available at www.koorong.com.au Here is Brian's own words about the subject.

 

When a young male reaches his teen years, he instinctively looks for ways to affirm his manhood. In societies where rites of passage are part of the norm, each young male participates in a formal ceremony during which his manhood is publicly and undeniably affirmed. From that day forward, he is treated differently by those around him and receives more freedom, rights and privileges. In response the young man begins to think and act more an as adult than as a child.  For the rest of his life he pursues maturity rather than manhood.

 

In contrast, a young male living in a society with no formal rites of passage must find his own path to adulthood. Without formal affirmation of his transformation, he vainly tries to find manhood on his own through a variety of means. Sadly, his pursuit of manhood rather than maturity will lead him down many side roads that are fruitless at best, destructive at worst.

 

While the two concepts, manhood and maturity seem very similar, they are as different as night and day. Manhood is bestowed upon a young male by the trusted elders (fathers, grandfathers, uncles, pastors, coaches, teachers) of his society during a rite of passage. Maturity is gained as a man grows in knowledge, wisdom and character. Manhood is a gift that we adults give to our sons. Maturity is the gift that they give back to us.

 

On the long flight from Africa, it became clear to me that without a rite of passage and some very deliberate mentoring along the way, each of us remains trapped within a false image of who we are. As I looked more deeply into the matter of 'growing up', I made a list of negative childish actions. Selfishness was definitely high on the list, followed by complaining, quitting when faced with a difficult situation, throwing temper tantrums, spewing threats of self-destruction, struggling with short attention spans, and demanding one's own way without regard for the needs of others.

 

It is clear that the lack of an intentional transition into adulthood creates a variety of problems for men of all ages. In an attempt to compensate for the lack of a transitional event, some teenage males unknowingly create their own rites of passage by resorting to violence, alcohol other drugs and sexual conquest. In the corporate world some men in leadership positions use the authority of their job titles to prove they have arrives, threatening others into submission. Like bullies who stalk junior-high schoolyards, these 'grown' men live to verbally wrestle and pin their weaker opponents during staff meetings.

 

Often men in their late thirties, forties, and fifties stumble into what is commonly called a midlife crisis. During this time men become consumed with a desire to search for meaning and identity in their lives. This sounds strangely similar to the vision quest that White Fox undertook at age fourteen.

 

In today's society men seem to have a difficult time settling into life.  Many struggle with a 'Peter Pan syndrome'. They do not want to grow up, and yet they realise they were created for a higher purpose than endless play in never-never land. How sad it is to see men at the end of their lives, estranged from their families, still unsure about spiritual realities, still questioning the reason for their own existence, and still wondering if they have succeeded in growing into manhood. Just as sad to see are the countless families whose sons fall into the predictable traps along the road of life because they don't know what a man is, much less how to become one.

 

 

 

Lovework

 

What Brian says about boy's transitions to manhood and rites of passage also applies to girl's transitions to womanhood. Brian's wife Kathy has just completed a book to help girls in their transition to womanhood. I encourage you to do one or both of two things. Buy a copy of boy's Passage Man's Journey for yourself or consider coming to a Boys Passage Man's Journey Seminar in a city near you. Further details can be found in News & Info. This is a wonderful opportunity to hear a world leader in the fatherhood movement on his first visit to Australia.  'carpe deim' is Latin for 'seize the day'. I can't think of a better way to say it.

 

Yours for our children

Warwick marsh

 

PS The Terri Irwin Interview on Wednesday night was amazing. What a woman! What a family! What a man!

 

Steve Irwin was obviously an extremely committed father. What one of his best friends said about him was true, "He was a great advocate for wildlife but an even greater father." What an incredible legacy he gave not only to his family but the whole world in this regard.

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Warwick Marsh  has been married to Alison for 30 years. He is
the father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 25 years to 13 years.  Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself.

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Grandads

 

Opportunities for meaningful communication

between fathers and sons

must be created,

and it's work to achieve it.

 

James Dobson

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Laughter

 
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Video link tor Dads who think its a piece of cake looking after Kids....Great fun

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Single Dads

 

Robbing One Struggling Child...

to spoil her brother  - the C$A way

by James Adams

  

Children Live in Households

To show how evil C$A rules are.. look at this example. Here is a really typical situation. Two parents divorce, she gets the kids. Both re-partner and they end up each with two kids... the mother has the original kids, and the dad has one kid that came with his new wife, and they have had one kid together.  

 

Dad's Kids

 

One wage

Two kids

One dependant wife (with a young baby)

pays child support

= poor house

 

Mother's House

 

Two wages

Two kids

No dependant adults

gets child support

= rich house  

 

Yes, it's true... the money flows from the poor kids to their rich half-siblings.  

 

If everybody who works earns the average wage, Dad's household has $40,000 before tax, while the mother has $110,000. (before tax).  The CSA (under the new formula) is $9000, after tax/tax free.

 

This is the sort of evil that occurs when you forget the fundamental truth that  all citizens should be treated fairly before the law and that kids live in households. 

 

The rules are based on ignoring new spouses... so Dad's dependant spouse and her kid is ignored, and Mum's new breadwinner is ignored.

 

Interesting the double standards... If you are on the dole, and you hook-up with somebody (marry, de-facto) this affects your dole payment. Adults live in households, apparently... but if you are a C$A receiving mother and you get married, your new husband's income is irrelevant...

 

Who made up these rules? They aren't fair... they hurt children and they hurt dads...  I wonder who gets the cash?

 

James Adams

Fathers for Equality

0417 258 364

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All you need is Love

50 YEARS LATER, IT'S 'I DO' ALL OVER AGAIN

Chicago Sun-Times

September 11, 2006

BY STEVE PATTERSON Staff Reporter

 

The advice is simple.

 

Among the hundreds of couples gathered Sunday at Holy Name Cathedral to celebrate 50 years of marriage, Don Ostrowski has a quick answer for those looking for the secret to reaching the golden wedding anniversary milestone he and his wife, Sara, achieved this month.

 

"Just agree with everything she says," the New Lenox man said, earning a laugh from his wife. "If she's happy, you're happy."

 

The annual tradition of renewing vows at the Catholic church packed the pews, as Frank Hannigan, director of family ministries for the Archdiocese of Chicago, noted that each couple represents 100 years of marriage experience.

 

"Fifty for the husbands," he noted, "and what probably feels like a whole lot more than that to the wives."

 

'What a beautiful sight this is'

 

Couples came with corsages on their wrists and boutonnieres on their lapels, with hair grayer and faces more weathered than when they first said, "I do."

 

They moved down the steps a bit slower than when they ran through showers of rice in 1956, but their dedication served as an inspiration.

 

"What a beautiful sight this is," retired Bishop Raymond Goedert said,

looking over the crowd. "In the name of the church, I thank you."

 

Jesse Canchola wore a tuxedo and his wife, Theresa, a gown to celebrate 50 years since they married in Mexico. The Chicago couple met at his 18th birthday feast and had five children together.

 

"You've got bad times and good times," he said of their endurance, noting they stood by each other through it all.

 

'We've been able to endure'

 

As Goedert recited verses, each couple renewed their vows, joining hands, rubbing each other's backs, enjoying a kiss and taking off their glasses to wipe away tears.

 

Will and Laurie White said it was their faith that brought them this far, decades after they met as seventh-graders.

 

It was his love of jazz that first got her attention when they were growing up in Gary, and 50 years and two children later, they say it is communication that has been the key to their success -- even as they finish each other's sentences.

 

"We've been able to endure," Will White said. "I think that sort of deserves a little pat on the back."

 

 

More than 600 couples renewed their vows Sunday at Holy Name Cathedral, 50 years after they married. According to those there, these are the keys to reaching a golden wedding anniversary:

 

* Communicate.

* Pray.

* Be determined to make it succeed.

* Share.

* Love each other.

* Laugh.

* Forgive.

* Remember "Till death do us part."

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Thought of the Week

Take the time to have fun.

Life truly is short.

 

Terri Irwin

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Special Feature

Terri Irwin Says Son Cries for his Dad

Interview with Barbara Walter

Thursday Sep 28 09:35 AEST

 

"I want my Daddy to come. I want my Daddy to come now."

They were the heartbreaking words Steve Irwin's two-year-old son, Bob, cried soon after hearing his father had died.

"He cried for his Daddy," Irwin's wife, Terri, told American journalist Barbara Walters in an interview to be aired on US TV on Thursday night.

While his big sister, Bindi, 8, had come to terms with their father's death, Bob had not given up hope his dad might come home.

Terri said she recently discovered Bob tinkering with his father's motorbike with a screwdriver.

When Terri asked what he was doing, Bob replied: "I'm fixing the motorbike so Daddy can drive it from heaven."

The Walters interview, to be broadcast on America's ABC TV network, is expected to be watched by more than 10 million viewers.

ABC will air it following two of the network's highest rated programs, Dancing with the Stars and Lost.

Americans will hear how Terri gently broke the news to Bob, 2, and daughter Bindi, 8, that their father had died in a stingray attack on the Great Barrier Reef.

"I told Bindi 'In life you steel yourself for things that go wrong," Terri, fighting back tears, said.

"And I said 'When something goes wrong you have to have faith and you have to believe it can be a new chapter and that we can go on'.

"And I said 'We are still a family. Daddy still loves you and we have to stay together and get each other through this'."

Terri and her children were holidaying in a remote area of Tasmania on September 4 when her brother-in-law called with the life-changing news her husband had died.

"Bindi was OK until Robert woke up," Terri told Walters.

"Robert asked me twice what happened and I explained it to him. It took him longer to get his mind around it.

"He cried for his Daddy: 'I want my Daddy to come. I want my Daddy to come now'.

"I'm OK until my kids cry.

"But, you know, I'm very resolute in making sure these kids remember their father and are proud of their father and that they celebrate their father however they choose."

The world watched as Bindi, without shedding a tear, spoke at her father's memorial at Australia Zoo last week.

Walters, admiring how calmly the eight-year-old spoke, asked Terri if Bindi fully understood her father had died.

"Absolutely, she understands," Terri responded.

"She always understood because living at a zoo, animals die.

"She has seen death. She knows what death is.

"She said I want to be at the memorial and say something about my Daddy."

Terri, however, said she was unable to speak at the memorial.

"I couldn't," Terri said.

"It's hard now.

 

 

"I'm really trying, but I've lost my prince.

"I've lost my prince."

Terri added she still cries, although she tries not to in front of her children.

"They've seen me cry, but there are times when I weep," Terri said.

"I usually weep alone."

İAAP 2006

 

 

 

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News & Info

 

Dear Friends

 

We write to tell you about the Turning Hearts 2006 Speaking Tour with Brian Molitor. 

 

Brian is the author of the groundbreaking book, 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' (c) 2004, Emerald Books, USA. This book is available from Koorong Books www.koorong.com.au  and has had a wonderful impact around the world.  Brian is also the founder of Malachi Global Foundation www.malachiglobal.org  based in USA.  He is also a management consultant and an executive coach who has taught leadership and management principles all over the world.   Brian has been married to Kathy for 23 years and has four children.

 

Brian Molitor will be conducting 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' Seminars', which focus on lifelong mentoring, transitions to manhood, father's blessing, words of affirmation and rites of passage.

 

He will be conducting these seminars in Wollongong, Perth, Kalgoorlie, Sunshine Coast QLD, Hobart, Melbourne and Berwick from 18th October to 29th October.

 

The evening seminars will run for 2 hours at a cost of $25.

Full day seminars will be $30.

 

We encourage you to attend one of these 'Boy's Passage Man's Journey' seminars which are geared for fathers and young men.

 

Brian Molitor is a world class speaker with a message of renewal for men and families for the 21st century.  We encourage you to take advantage of his presence in Australia and book in early at a location near you to avoid disappointment.

 

Yours for Australian families

Warwick Marsh

Fatherhood Foundation

PO Box 440

Wollongong  NSW 2520

02 4272 6677

info@fathersonline.org

www.fathersonline.org

 

Boy's Passage Man's Journey Seminars will be held in the following locations:

 

Wednesday 18th October, 7 - 9 pm

Wollongong

Cedars Christian College

Library Building

Waples Rd

Unanderra NSW 2526

Bookings are essential

Ph: 02 4272 6677

AH: 0418 225 212

 

Saturday 21st October, 9 am - 3 pm

Thornlie Church of Christ

319 Spencer Rd

Thornleigh WA

Bookings are essential

08 9459 8522

AH: 0413 081 228

 

Monday 23rd October, 7-9 pm

Kalgoorlie Church of Christ

169 Egan St

Kalgoorlie WA

Bookings are essential

08 9021 2296

AH: 0427 356 619

 

Wednesday 25th October, 7-9 pm

Goodlife Community Church

100 Buderim Pines Dr

Buderim QLD

Bookings are essential

07 5478 1766

AH: 0412 121 745

or 0410 585 277

Sponsored by:

Goodlife Community Church

Heart to Heart Ministries

The Passage Program

 

Thursday 26th October, 7 - 9 pm

Grace Christian Church

45 Melville St

Hobart TAS

Bookings are essential

03 6231 2648

AH: 0418 123 338

 

Saturday 28th October, 9.30 am - 3.30 pm

Lighthouse Christian College

(Library Building)

927 Springvale Rd

Springvale VIC

Bookings are essential

03 8796 7373

AH: 0402 067 030

 

Sunday 29th October, 6 - 8 pm

The Winepress Church

40 Intrepid St

Berwick VIC

03 9796 1006

 

 

 

 

 

29 October - 01 November 2006
The Men's Advisory Network (MAN)

Conference "From Babies to Blokes: The Making of Men"

The Men's Advisory Network (MAN) is conducting a conference of national significance on the theme "From Babies to Blokes: The Making of Men" to be held at the Esplanade Hotel, Fremantle from 29 October to 1 November 2006.

The conference will have six streams:

  • Conditioning of infant boys
  • Development of boys
  • Transition from boyhood to manhood
  • Men and work
  • Men and relationships
  • Men and ageing

Speakers so far confirmed include:

  • Bettina Arndt
  • Professor Konrad Jamrozik
  • Ian Lillico
  • Greg Mitchell
  • Dr Michael Nagel
  • Kieren Perkins
  • Dr Shaun Ridley
  • Dr Arne Rubinstein
  • Dr Norman Swan.

Register at: www.promaco.com.au/conference/2006/man/index.htm  

Any assistance that you may be able to give in assisting to promote the conference would be greatly appreciated.

Gary Bryant
Executive Officer
Email: admin@man.org.au admin@man.org.au
Website: www.man.org.au www.man.org.au

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US Marriage Leaders Visit Australia

 

Marriage Leaders and Ministers are invited to attend Morning Tea and an opportunity to hear from two exciting couples visiting Sydney from North America:

 

Leo and Molly Godzich founded the National Association of Marriage Enhancement (NAME) and are actively involve in teaching couples how to have a better marriage.  They will share their insights on how the understanding of a foundation of covenant can make a huge difference in the lives of our churches. Leo and Molly teach a weekly marriage class to hundreds of couples with outstanding results. Together they have created and conduct 'Together Forever' marriage events.

 

 

Bob and Audrey Meisner will share from their dynamic testimony of marriage healing after seeking God and facing up to the impact of adultery.  They have recently written two books and are co-hosts of the television program "'t's A New Day' seen daily across Canada and the UK.  Individually and as a couple, they have been working on Christian television since 1984. Having pioneered in broadcasting and church planting, Bob and Audrey are now popular marriage conference speakers. 

 

THE DETAILS:

FRIDAY 3rd November 2006

* 10.00 am Morning Tea - Conclude by 12.30 pm

* C2 Connection Centre

* Corner of Silverwater Road and Egerton Street SILVERWATER 2128

* No charge/No offering

* Car Parking available -onsite & on the street

 

 

FOR FURTHER INFORMATION:      

and to RSVP (By Wed 1st Nov) please contact:

Neil and Jane Rookes -  National Marriage Coalition

28/18 Day Street North  SILVERWATER NSW 2128

P: 02 96486464   M: 0434984295   

E: info@marriage.org.au

Two similar events will be held in Brisbane and Toowoomba, Tuesday 7th November.

Please contact above for further information.

 

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Letters

 

Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Having recently welcomed my own son into manhood with the help of the men of my church and some of the men who have been a part of his life to date, I was excited to see the topic of Brian Molitor's presentation - "Boy's Passage - Man's Journey".  In welcoming my own son into manhood I was pretty much guessing what would be appropriate and significant.  The guess was pretty good and we had a great night, but I would have valued some more input from someone like Brian.  If you have boys I thoroughly recommend this presentation as a mind-flint as to how you can help them become the men that they are intended to be.

 

Remember, it takes a village to raise a child.  It takes a village to make a man!

 

Brian Pember

 

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Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Greetings from your counterpart in the US!!!

 

WOW!!!  I barely know where to begin other than to say 'hello' and I am absolutely excited about my friend Brian coming to your corner of the world to bring his passion, wisdom, and experience to the fathers of Australia!!  I know that everyone, including Brian, will be blessed by what will happen there.

 

I had a very good time looking at your web site and the things that you are doing and accomplishing there? GREAT JOB WARWICK!!!!  That is a tremendous thing you are doing lending yourself to fathers and families!  You are literally changing the destiny of Australia!  Every day that I come to work I feel the weight of the responsibility that we have here at the National Center for Fathering and I think about the million plus dads a year that are being affected by our work?and the realization that if we are to reach a tipping point in the US that we need to get that number up to 10 million!!!! 

 

The high octane fuel that I run on comes from my father leaving at 5 - and then 25 years later my father and I reconnecting, reconciling, and now having a tremendous relationship!  For all the work I do I see clearly that I want fathers and their fathers and fathers and their children to have that same shot at reconciliation and wholeness that we now have.  So, I burn at a very high rate to create a vortex to bring dads together to help them to become more effective fathers.

 

We too believe that every child needs a dad that they can count on.  Children thrive when they have an involved father - someone who loves them, knows them, guides them, and helps them to achieve their destiny.  At NCF we inspire, engage, and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers, and father figures their children need.  I've included an attachment that will give you a 50,000 foot overview of who we are - if you want a closer view of any of that just let me know.

 

I look forward to hearing from you.  You could not have chosen a better man to engage your dads and men.  Let me know how I can serve you from this end.

 

In Him'

Ken Howard

Seminar Director

National Center for Fathering

10200 W. 75th St. Suite 267

Shawnee Mission, KS  66202

913-378-1042 direct line

816-918-1303 cell

khoward@fathers.com

www.fathers.com

 

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Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Steve Irwin was not just a crocodile hunter, he was also a dedicated father and family man who loved and cherished his children, just as most all fathers do. Sadly a terrible accident took Steve away from his beloved children. Equally sadly near a million Australian children are taken away from their fathers by one of the most outdated inhuman family law systems in the world which whether you believe it or not. I have always believed and stated, the system has created a second stolen generation of children in this country, from their dads. We must never, never ever give up the fight to bring about equality and squash this monster that keeps stealing our children and making billions of dollars out of their devastated fathers.

 

The best to all

Barry Williams

LFAA

president@lonefathers.com.au

 

 

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Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Absolutely BRILLIANT Newsletter this time (24th Sept 06). All are good but this was extra, extra good. Well done!

 

John Marks

General Manager

Rhema FM Newcastle

 

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Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Thankyou so much for the opportunity to present at the Good to Great Course last Thursday. I love speaking to Dads. You guys are doing an awesome job and I would love to be a part of the future. Let me know how I can help.

 

Keep changing your world

 

Rhett Morris

CEO

Teen Challenge NSW

 

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Dad's Prayer

 

Dear God

 

Do you mean to tell me that manhood

is granted to a son by his father and the elders

in the community in a public celebration?

Is that why you said,

"This is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased"

from that cloud all those years ago?

 

Maybe you were trying to tell us

to do the same for our children.

You know we are a bit slow sometimes,

but we do get things after a while.

Thanks for the tip.

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The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Prevention Charity.
Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been proven to be a source of harm.

The Fatherhood Foundation helps children by promoting excellence  in fathering. Excellent fathers are in word and deed: responsible, involved, protective, loving and committed to the well-being of their children and their children's mother.

If you would like to give financially to the Fatherhood Foundation Public Fund and receive tax deductibility:

Fatherhood Foundation Public Fund
(Name, address and amount details must be emailed for a receipt for tax deductibility)
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Or mail cheque and address details to:
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WOLLONGONG  NSW  2520
AUSTRALIA

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